Have you recently moved to a new city and you don’t know a single soul? Are you wanting to meet new friends but have no clue where to start?
Or perhaps you still live in your hometown but have outgrown your old group of friends?
Maybe you’re a social butterfly and your friend motto is “the more, the merrier!”
Meeting friends isn’t always easy, especially if you’re an introvert or struggle staying up past 10 PM on a Friday night when everyone else is just leaving for a fun-filled night on the town. I too had trouble meeting new friends when I relocated to Seattle almost 7 years ago. That was, until I found Meetup.com
WHAT IS MEETUP.COM?
Meetup is a site where you can discover and join local groups based on mutual interests. Let me tell ya, there’s something for everyone. Are you into Cosplay? Museums? Dinner Clubs? Bar Crawls? Meetup has a group for you.
The size of groups vary, but I’ve seen them range from 50 people up to 13k.
Generally speaking, it’s free to join the majority of groups you’ll find on Meetup. However, Meetup charges group organizers $180 per year to use the platform, so sometimes the organizers will require a donation before you can join their group. Donations also help organizers secure spaces that may require a deposit in order to host fun events.
Oh, and don’t worry about your age. As I mentioned before, there’s a group for everyone. And if you can’t find your ideal group in your city, you can always become and organizer and create a brand new Meetup group.
FASTEST WAY TO MEET NEW PEOPLE
In an age where we’ve come to expect instant gratification, Meetup helps to grant us friendships in the snap of a finger.
Once you’ve identified a Meetup group that you find appealing, you send a request to join. Depending on the group, you might be able to join instantly. In other cases, you have to be approved by the group organizer.
Once you’ve been approved, you can start RSVPing to events right away. Not only can you start attending events, but you can host them, too.
(You don’t have to be a group organizer to host an event for the group.)
Let’s say you joined a happy hour group and there’s a spot in your neighborhood you’ve always wanted to check out. You can host a happy hour event at the restaurant by posting the meetup to the group page at any point after you’ve joined.
MEET PEOPLE WITH SIMILAR INTERESTS
Are you into hiking? There’s a group for that. Are you into happy hour gatherings? They’ve got that too. What about running? Check!
As I mentioned earlier, there is such a variety of interest groups on Meetup that I’m sure you’d find at least one or two groups that stand out.
After a quick search through the Seattle Meetup groups, I found a group dedicated to cuddle parties (yes, cuddle parties) and another group for whiskey lovers. If that doesn’t speak to the spectrum of choices out there, I’m not sure what does. (Going to a whiskey lovers event and then hitting up a cuddle party immediately after might result in some friskiness, LOL.)
I joined Meetup in 2010 when I moved to Seattle and found that all my co-workers were married with children and were not likely to hang out with a single 27-year-old who liked dancing to ratchet hip hop music.
So when I saw a group called Seattle Girls Who Love to Dance as I was cruising through the local groups, I knew that I’d found my people! I have many fond memories of dancing into the early hours of the morning with the girls I met in that group, a few of whom I’m still friends with today.
LOOKING FOR FRIENDS IS A COMMON THEME
What I like about Meetup is that almost everyone you meet at events is looking for friendship, and it’s a relief of pressure when you realize you’re all in the same boat.
Because of this, I think you’ll find it easier to connect with others and start building your friendship base.
In a way, finding your girl tribe is somewhat like dating.
Similar to dating, you’re not always going to “click” with everyone that you meet and that’s to be expected. But once you find ladies with similar interests or a complementary personality, you should initiate plans to hang out again. Don’t overthink it. Everyone is there to make new friends.
The more groups you join, the more opportunities you have to meet people. But remember, you must actually go to the events. Being part of a meetup group is pointless if you aren’t an active participant.
I’m grateful to Meetup because I’ve met some of my best friends here in Seattle from going to group events. There are 6 ladies that I hang out with consistently thanks to a Meetup group I joined about 3 years ago.
We’ve taken girls’ weekends to Mt. Rainier, Portland, and Vancouver, British Columbia, and shared countless dinner celebrations.
Truth be told, a new city just doesn’t feel like home unless you’ve got friends to share it with – and Meetup is a great place to start.
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