“Oh, here she goes with this bullsh*t again” ”
“What’s this moron complaining about now?!”
“Here we go with yet another gag worthy love note”
Have any of these thoughts ever entered your head as you’ve scrolled through your Facebook newsfeed? Have you ever thought about deleting your own Facebook account because you were tired of the daily avalanche of crap popping up on your feed?
If so, chances are that you need to do some facebook unfriending.
Below are 3 tests to help you determine if it’s time to kick some of your Facebook friends to the social media curb.
The Public Recognition Test:
Several months ago I flew back to my hometown and went to brunch with my family. While we were waiting for our table, I scoped out a girl who graduated in my same high school class. We’d been friendly in high school and had become Facebook friends at some point after college. Although we were never BFFs, I considered her to be an acquaintance.
Said acquaintance was leaving the restaurant with her husband while my family and I waited to be seated near the entrance. As she was heading for the exit, we both noticed one another and then averted our eyes shortly afterward.
No wave, no smile, just a realization of “I know her.” It seemed that we both instantly found a way to busy ourselves to avoid speaking. I’m sure it was nothing personal, it definitely wasn’t from my end, just an attempt to avoid a potentially awkward hello to someone I hadn’t spoken to in many years. But still, we spent more effort avoiding each other than if we had acted like normal human beings and greeted one another.
What is the benefit of being Facebook friends with someone who you wouldn’t even acknowledge in public? None that I can think of.
Whenever you think about whether or not you should unfriend someone, ask yourself one key question:“If I saw this person at a restaurant (or any public place), would I walk over and say hello?”
If the answer is no, then it’s time to let them loose.
Online Engagement Test:
It literally takes 1 second to like a post. Do you have FB friends who’ve never liked anything you’ve posted?
No thumbs up on that new job announcement? No thumbs up on anything, ever?
I get it, there is a small population of people who don’t check their Facebook (God bless ’em); we can give them a pass.
But, if you have a FB friend who is always posting but chooses to never engage with you or anything you post – then I have to wonder what’s the purpose of keeping them?
Quite simply – Does this person interact with you or your posts on social media? If not, it might be time to snip ’em.
Think of it this way, if you unfriend them, they’re unlikely to notice anyway.
Mood indicator Test:
Do certain people’s posts generally leaving you feeling jealous, anxious, sad or pissed off?
If so, maybe it’s time to show them the door. You wouldn’t be friends with someone outside of Facebook who induced those emotions, so why on Facebook?
The friend who is constantly falling in and out of love that drives you crazy? Bye.
The friend who is constantly posting sexist/racist articles? Sayonara!
What about the friend that constantly moans about every aspect of their life? Give them a card to a therapist and kick them to the curb.
Other people’s posts can affect our moods, and if someone brings your energy down with their updates, let them go.
Facebook has become an outlet that is pervasive in our lives. According to a 2016 New York Times article, the average user spends almost 1-hour browsing Facebook per day. (Please tell me I’m not the only one who spends significantly more than 1 hour on Facebook every day…)
Since we spend more time browsing FB per day than we spend eating, shouldn’t we be filling our social media feeds with people who bring something positive to our lives – whether that’s entertainment, inspiration, or just because we find them interesting?
Don’t we use Facebook as a way to escape our own daily life and stress? If that’s the case, we should be a bit more selective on who we invite to occupy our minds for that coveted hour.
Do you prefer to unfollow or unfriend?
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